Size Does Matter!

                                                          

Well, it shouldn’t, but the truth is, it does. And the size of what are we talking about, here? The size of others’ opinions. The space that it occupies in each of our lives, day in and day out. It is sometimes disturbing to notice that, that one person whose opinion matters to us the least, is our own! Of course not denying the fact that there is a small chunk of people who are makers of their own destiny – apni marzi ke maalik (like we say in Hindi).

But of course in this article we are talking about people who belong to the former category, like myself. The size of the space occupied by others’ opinions in each of our lives varies, ranging from S, M, L, XL and so on. And talking of sizes, it is interesting to note that, the size of one’s happiness and peace of mind is always inversely proportionate to the size of others’ opinions. The smaller the size of others’ opinions, the larger is the happiness and peace, and vice versa.

It is when having one such conversations with my friend about me belonging to the former category of being easily influenced by what others think, is when a solution was given to me – Yes, you are right. Even this time, another’s opinion mattered, and how! It mattered to this extent, that I am not only applying it, but advising others on applying it too!! LOL.

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      Compartmentalize people: Everybody in our lives cant occupy the position of being somebody whose opinion should even matter – well, I was told that it shouldn’t even be heard, but thankfully I would beg to differ from what another thinks (thank god I am learning)

-          Compartmentalize opinions: After people, come their opinions. It is not necessary that every opinion of every person need be given equal importance. Here is where opinions are categorized into those that will affect us and those that don’t, in fact shouldn’t. Is the opinion truly beneficial? Makes sense? Coming from a person who is high in order of priority? OK, qualify.

-          Applying opinions: The third and the last, but not the least at all (in fact the most important). Not all opinions that matter, can be applied or need be applied. And at this juncture is where the most important person enters, whose opinion needs to be considered – YOU. YOURSELF. YOUR OPINION. Not all of us are structured or wired in a way to just stand up strongly to our own independent opinions. We sometimes, need some backing and support. And this is where it has to be kept in mind to never forget yourself.  Never to give importance to another’s opinion than your own.

      We have one life to live, and the best way to live it is by our own standards. As long as our actions and opinions are not affecting another’s or even our own life in a harmful manner, there is no right or wrong. Life is meant to be lived up, each second, each minute, each hour, each day, everyday, day after day!

If this is not Love....

When you are the one hurt
I am the one who feels pain
When the times are going tough
The tears in my eyes start to rain.
If this is not love, what else is?

Every time the phone rings
A smile on my face it brings
People around me look puzzled
But I always keep them riddled.
If this is not love, what else is?

My day starts with you
And so does it end,
But not even a moment of it
Do i find to repent.
If this is not love, what else is?

When I need some support
To you I want to run,
When its time for some cheer
Its with you I want the fun.
If this is not love, what else is?

When alone and lonely
Your companionship is what I seek
And even amidst a crowd
All I yearn for is your single peek.
If this is not love, what else is?

And as I am about to wrap up
This poetry sitting at my seat
All I am looking forward to
Is for us to someday meet!
If this is not love, what else is?

Say CHEESE!

In the blossoming of a flower,
In the laughter of a child,
In the chirping of the birds,
In the swaying of the trees,
There are reasons to do it - SMILE.

In the caress of a mother,
In the protection of a father,
In the teasing of a sibling,
In the teaching of a guru,
There are reasons to do it - SMILE.

In the care and company of a friend,
In the love and affection of a partner,
In the companionship of a roommate,
In the understanding of a colleague,
There are reasons to do it - SMILE.

In the lashing of the waves,
In the downpour from the clouds,
In the shining of the sun and,
In the lighting of the moon,
There are reasons to do it - SMILE.

In the passing thoughts of an old friend,
In the memories of times well spent,
In the cherishing of the people you have met,
In the thanking of the people who have helped,
There are reasons to do it - SMILE.

There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy,
And who deserves it more than U - SMILE!:-)

In pursuit of true happiness....

What is it, that all of us, as humans with flesh and blood, as humans with feelings and emotions, as humans with senses and a reasoning, need, to feel fulfilled, to feel satisfied and to feel happy. 

Money? Comforts and luxuries? Attention?
NO. All, the human mind craves for, is Love & affection.
All, the human mind needs, is Acceptance.
All, the human mind is hungry for, is Appreciation.

To have a special someone to love & to be loved. To have a family to care and to care for. To have a bunch of friends to enjoy with and live life to the fullest. These are all riches that hold a lot more value than a hefty bank balance.

To have a best friend who understands and who you understand. To have a partner who accepts you the way you are and loves you for who you are. To have a confidante, whose shoulders you can lean on, during times not so good. These are all comforts that cant be traded in for any worldly luxuries.

To have a pat on the back, acknowledging your efforts – small and big. To get a round of applause, appreciating your achievements - small and big. To have a reassuring nod when you are in self doubt. These are all things that have the power of even bringing the dead back to life and to keep us going when we feel down in the dumps.

So, when loved, accepted and appreciated, is when we feel true happiness. That is where the true happiness of the mind lies. 

Today, take it upon yourself, to keep the minds of people around you, happy. Love them. Make them feel accepted and appreciated. Spread happiness and see how it comes back to you one day. The joy of giving is indeed like a boomerang. It eventually comes back. It has to. It will.

inTRANSIT Anthem

Stay in your world, connect with ours

When you have in hand, those endless hours!

When boredom stares you in the face

Hook onto us, and it will change!

A room full of strangers, not anymore

Pick up your phone, and friends there will pour.

Hungry as a dog and care for a meal,

Get onto us and we’ll get you the deal.

Shopping’s on the cards, but choices are not

We’ll get you to where the best things are bought.

If that’s not enough, we have more,

Once you know, you’ll love it to the core!!     

WHY?? Because

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The wind of realization blew so hard

With the strength to rip me apart

As It was beginning to throw me away

I saw you looking and smiling from afar.

You gave me the reason to continue

You gave me the cord to hold on to

You gave me the strength to try harder

You gave me the will to persevere.

You became the reason for dreams to bloom

Those I feared, had withered away

You became the bud of a new purpose

You showed me the path out of this mess.

With you in my heart, I tread along

The threads of my life, to you belong

As a new chapter begins to weave

HOPE - you are why I am Here. 

I am Me, all over again.

Little Wonder
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What should we name you
How should we call you
Who will you look like
What will you sound like

Can't wait to hear your first cry
Can't wait to hold you in my arms tight
Can't wait to cuddle up close
To you, so pure as a new rose

Can't wait to hear you gurgle
Can't wait to buy you a new cradle
Can't wait to sing those lullabies
As you sleep. my little honey bee

Can't wait to see you grow
Can't wait for the tantrums you'd throw
Remember this mom will always be there
As we tread together as a pair
The journey called LIFE!!

Mere Saathi

Jab Tum Pass rehthey ho
Marney se bhi darthey nahin
Ek pal ki judaai bhi
Is dil ko manzoor nahin.
Tumhara Haath Thaamey, Kahin Bi Chaley hum
Tumse judaa honey ki soch bhi na sakhthey hum.
Tumhare pyaar ki ehsaas mein
Jag uth they hain soye hua Sapney
Zindagi bhar saath chalney ki
Khwaab uth thi hain is man mein.
Tumhare awaaz ki surileypan mein
Goonj uth thi hain mera jahaan
Tumhare payaar ki ehsaas mein
Jag uth they hai saarey armaan.
Tumhara sath jab hotha hain
Tho sara jahaan khoobsurat lagtha hain
Marney thak ye saath bani rahe
Mann yahin dua maangtha hain.
Jab tum pass rehthey ho
marney se bhi darthey nahin
Ek Pal ki judaai bhi
Is dil ko manzoor nahin!!

A Friend

Not somebody who finds faults in you,
But somebody who tells you how to improve.
Not, Somebody who shares your secrets,
But somebody who keeps your secrets.
Not somebody who expects you to follow
But somebody who walks along with you.
Not Somebody who only talks to you,
But somebody who also listens to you.
Not somebody who wants his/her way,
But somebody who lets you have your way.
Not somebody who discourages you,
But somebody who appreciates & encourages you.
Not somebody who competes with you,
But somebody who lets you win.
Not somebody who is a threat to you,
But somebody who calms your fears.
Its all a game of giving in to each other.
Loving each other, living for each other.
Be a good friend. Find a good friend.
Make your life Different & let Friendship blossom forever.

Homecoming..

Yes, here, I am coming
Back to the land of my own
To the narrow yet beautiful roads.
Back to where the birds to you will talk
As they fly by your homes in flocks.
Back to the loving group of friends
I had left behind and went away to fend.
Back to the teracces, so high and open
Where I stood dreaming, so very often.
Back to the grand and big festivities
To the mouthwatering sweet delicacies.
Back to my loving and small little family
Who wait for me with eyes twinkling happily.
Yes, here I am coming
Back to my land, back to my HOME.
HOME SWEET HOME!!!!!

By
Preethy

Attempt at Tamil Poetry

PENN

UN KOONDHAL KARMEGAM POLA
UN NETRI POTTU ENNANAMO SOLLA.
UN KANGAL IRU VEN MEENGAL
ADHIL KOLLAI POGINDRARGAL PALA AANGAL.
KAADHIL LOLAKKU SOLLUDHADI ISAI METTU
ADHAI KETKA ODI VANDHEN, PAADU PALA PATTU.
UN IDHAZHGALAI MELLA PIRITHU, SIRU PUNNAGAI ONDRU SINDHADI
UN KAIGALIL ENNAI ENDHI, ISAI RAGANGAL PALA PAADADI.
UN MADIYILE VIZHUNDHU EN KANGALAI MOODINEN,
SOLLATHAN ENGINEN, AANAAL SOLLA THYANGINEN.
UNNAI POL ORU PENNAI PADAIKKA ANDHA IRAIVAN ENNA SEYDHAANO?
EN VAAZHKAIYIL VANNAM POOSATHAAN UNNAI ENAKKU THANDHAANO?
ORU THAAIYAAI ENNAI MADIYIL ENDHI
ORU THOZHIYAAI EN MANA BAARANGALAI THAANGI
ORU MANAIVIYAAI EN JEEVANIL PAADHIYAAGIYA
PENNE, NEE ALLAVA ANDHA IRAIVANIN MARU PIRAVI.

By Preethy

Bollywood Masti (Hindi Poetry?????nah.........)

Darling, "Hum Tumhare Hain Sanam",
Tum Mujhse "Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna".
Iska jo bhi ho "Anjaam",
Humey kisise nahin hain "Darr".
Mein tumhare saath hoon, ho "Kabhie Khushi Kabhi Gham",
Aakhir "Maine Pyar Kiya", "Pyar Kiya tho Darna kya"?
Mere Man Mein hain "Hazaron kwahishen aisi",
Jo "Sapnay" mere "Mann" mein hain basi.
"Pyar mein Kabhi Kabhi", dekho, "Kuch kuch hota hain",
Pehle tha tapori aur aaj "Raju ban gaya gentleman" kehlaata hain.
"Aap ki khaatir" mere dil ka jahaan hain haazir,
Mere "Dil" ka tum hi ho "Aakhri Manzil".
Baiteen hoon mein apni "Saajan" ki intzaar mein,
Ek na ek din "Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jaaenge"...

Preethy

I, Me, Myself....

As I reached out to the stick,
You gave me your hands to hold.
As I leant forward for support,
"My shoulders are there for you", you told.
As I moved ahead to hold your hands,
The earth slipped off me like sand.
As I came to lean on your shoulders,
My earth came crashing down like boulders.
There was no one beside me,
For me to lean, or for me to hold.
I was standing, all by myself,
All alone, at the end of the road.....

By Preethy

1 more of my creation

SHOWERS

The clouds darken in the sky
The sun becomes a little too shy.
The songs of birds lingering in the air
As they fly back to their nests with care.
The trees swaying in the breeze
As though they were shivering with freeze.
The darkness that spreads all over
As the sun shies away and the clouds take-over.
The clouds take pictures of the world below
As they meet with laughter and thunder so roar.
As they fall into the earth as tiny droplets
Filling the air with soothing smells.
The trees and plants dance in fun
As they say goodbye to the sun.
The clouds have shed tears of their joy
And its time for them to say goodbye.
As they move away and go on a stride
The sun shines again with all its pride.
And so we learn the way if life
After darkness, there is always a sunshine.

By Preethy

My Poem

Dreams........


I dream of you and me together,Living happily forever.
I dream of my hands in yours,A gesture that always asseeures.
I dream of our little house,With you as my loving spouse.
I dream of a simple life,With me as your dutiful wife.
I dream of being in your arms,Forever sunken in its warmth.
I dream of silly little fights,Which would make our bond more tight.
I dream of walking on the seashore,Bringing us close a little more.
I dream of having our little ones,Which would add a lot more fun.
I will keep dreaming foreverTill the sun rises, never.

By Preethy