Well, it shouldn’t, but the truth is, it does. And the size
of what are we talking about, here? The size of others’ opinions. The space
that it occupies in each of our lives, day in and day out. It is sometimes
disturbing to notice that, that one person whose opinion matters to us the
least, is our own! Of course not denying the fact that there is a small chunk
of people who are makers of their own destiny – apni marzi ke maalik (like we
say in Hindi).
But of course in this article we are talking about people
who belong to the former category, like myself. The size of the space occupied
by others’ opinions in each of our lives varies, ranging from S, M, L, XL and
so on. And talking of sizes, it is interesting to note that, the size of one’s
happiness and peace of mind is always inversely proportionate to the size of
others’ opinions. The smaller the size of others’ opinions, the larger is the
happiness and peace, and vice versa.
It is when having one such conversations with my friend
about me belonging to the former category of being easily influenced by what
others think, is when a solution was given to me – Yes, you are right. Even
this time, another’s opinion mattered, and how! It mattered to this extent, that
I am not only applying it, but advising others on applying it too!! LOL.
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Compartmentalize people: Everybody in our lives
cant occupy the position of being somebody whose opinion should even matter –
well, I was told that it shouldn’t even be heard, but thankfully I would beg to
differ from what another thinks (thank god I am learning)
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Compartmentalize opinions: After people, come
their opinions. It is not necessary that every opinion of every person need be
given equal importance. Here is where opinions are categorized into those that
will affect us and those that don’t, in fact shouldn’t. Is the opinion truly
beneficial? Makes sense? Coming from a person who is high in order of priority?
OK, qualify.
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Applying opinions: The third and the last, but
not the least at all (in fact the most important). Not all opinions that
matter, can be applied or need be applied. And at this juncture is where the
most important person enters, whose opinion needs to be considered – YOU.
YOURSELF. YOUR OPINION. Not all of us are structured or
wired in a way to just stand up strongly to our own independent opinions. We
sometimes, need some backing and support. And this is where it has to be kept
in mind to never forget yourself. Never
to give importance to another’s opinion than your own.
We have one life to live, and the
best way to live it is by our own standards. As long as our actions and
opinions are not affecting another’s or even our own life in a harmful manner,
there is no right or wrong. Life is meant to be lived up, each second, each
minute, each hour, each day, everyday, day after day!
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